I was discussing this latest sms exchange with Mark last night over dinner. There is something about me and first dates. I cannot seem to bridge the gap between a first or second date and an actual relationship. There is no follow through. The scenario always seems to be the same: I get excited by a new guy. We have a great first date. We have sex (not amazing sex but first time sex). I express some sort of interest. They never follow through, call back or are always too busy to meet up. Is it my breath? I feel like a serial first dater. Mark was trying to reassure me that it was not me…that it was them. I was picking men who disappoint me and fail to follow through. First it was Glenn, then the investment banker…and now possibly Henry. I am trying to be less neurotic. I am trying to stop chasing after men. Is it possible to not take things personally when he’s just not that into you?

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Mark has had his own experiences with men that do not follow through or say the right things to get into his pants. Even though he’s younger than me, Mark is so wise. He totally cheered me up. He reminded me that I am off this weekend to tropical Queensland for a weekend of heat, sun and hopefully some interested men. So I will not worry about Henri and will not follow things up. As Charlie writes, I will wait for the man that is meant to be for me.

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The poem on the left is by fellow blogger and single guy Charlie at http://www.wrongteam.com/. It exactly describes the way I feel at times. Yesterday’s post about Henry sure got everyone talking and commenting. It seems the consensus is that I should give Herny a go….that I should feel lucky to have a potential boyfriend. Well..I think I may have counted my chickens before they hatched. I have not heard back from Henry. I know it has only been a few days but our last text message exchange was not very promising. “I am rather busy at the moment but see you soon.” Huh…could this be a diplomatic way of saying, thanks for the shag but I do not want to see you again?

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So last Saturday I went out for my first proper date with Henry, a 44 year old Belgium (Triathlete guy)human resources manager. Herny, aka as my older guy lives in another world (that is NOT his pic on the left). I had seen this type of traditional dating in old French movies but had never experienced it myself. Herny was born in Belgium but lived in Paris, Milan and all over Europe. He is a typical European man. He speaks five languages, is well read, sophisticated, cultured and very sexy. He's a real man. His apartment is out of the Vogue Home cover. He knows all the good restaurants, drinks pinot from the south of France and all of his clothes are made in Milan or Paris.

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What is your age limit on men? 5 years? 10 ? 20? If you are in your late twenties would you date someone who is in their early 40s? I do have to admit I am attracted to older guys, older not old. I generally follow the ten year rule. If I am 29, my age limit is 39. So would you date someone who is 44? Factor the fact that he is Belgium and has an adorable French accent. Factor that he has an amazing body and he is a trained triathlete who knows his way around the kitchen.

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